We have all heard the phrase, "Live like you're dying." Two popular songs that have this phrase:
If today was your last day by Nickleback, and
Live like you are dying by Kris Allen. These songs always make me think. If you really knew that today was your last day, what would you do? It hurts my head just thinking about it.
I've been thinking about death a lot lately. A couple weeks ago a senior at my high school passed away. I know his little brother; we went to elementary together. When I heard of this tragic event I couldn't help but think of him. What he must be feeling, thinking, etc. It then made me think about how I would feel if I lost someone close to me. I couldn't even bare the thought of it.
They announced this Seniors death at school. I was in my English class when we heard the news. My English teacher, who is also a therapist decided that talking about the stages of grief was appropriate for our lesson that day:
- Denial: Avoiding the problem.
- Anger: Place blame on yourself, others, and/or God.
- Bargain: Making a deal. "God, I will go to church and do everything you want me to do if you don't do this."
- Depression: Absent of feelings (powerless)
- Acceptance: Choice on how to deal.
- Plan: Incorporate the change/future
That night they had a memorial for this kid. His family was there and I couldn't even handle looking at his mom. She was just crying so hard. I went up to his brother after and gave him a hug and told him how sorry I was. He has been so strong through it all. I know that he is hurting inside, but on the outside he is the same kid I have always known. I went to the viewing, and funeral. It was amazing how many teenagers from our school were there supporting his family. It just shows how so many different people from many different backgrounds can come together.
Let this be a reminder to all of us. You never know when someone will be gone. Cherish every moment of it.